what happens when a two people are together, but yet one party isn't exactly serious about the whole relationship?
one side wants commitment, trust, respect, devotion, the other's just looking for companionship, someone to hang out with, to have fun, and basically be there when circumstances permit. it's difficult to strike a balance, and i guess if you don't make things clear, leading the other party on will have disasterous consequences. or sometimes when both agree, but eventually things get too serious, one party wants out, but the other's dived headfirst into the whole situation.. then trouble brews.
sometimes when you've been together for too long, it's another problem. you become so used to life, so comfortable with that someone in your life that even though the spark is gone, even though feelings aren't there, you're still together. it's become a convenience, a habit.. and sometimes these habits become too restrictive.. or when you finally do break it off, it's too much to handle when you realise you're suddenly alone and there's nothing else to do.. and so you turn back to seeing him/her again..
and the vicious cycle begins again...
would moving on help? maybe. maybe not. i guess it varies from person to person.
today was a pretty interesting day, learning more about people, hanging out and having gossip sessions with the skaters is always very interesting. stories of days gone by, stories that are still unfolding, it's always interesting to hear gossip. i think my skating hasn't improved, and there's still so much more to learn.. it's terrible when you've reached a plateau, it's either you maintain, or you fall off.. and i think i'm falling off the bloody plateau! grr.
i wonder if older women are as good as people always say they are.. but then again i doubt i'll ever get a chance to find out.. not when i'm up to my neck with work and exams and school commitments...
till tomorrow...
one side wants commitment, trust, respect, devotion, the other's just looking for companionship, someone to hang out with, to have fun, and basically be there when circumstances permit. it's difficult to strike a balance, and i guess if you don't make things clear, leading the other party on will have disasterous consequences. or sometimes when both agree, but eventually things get too serious, one party wants out, but the other's dived headfirst into the whole situation.. then trouble brews.
sometimes when you've been together for too long, it's another problem. you become so used to life, so comfortable with that someone in your life that even though the spark is gone, even though feelings aren't there, you're still together. it's become a convenience, a habit.. and sometimes these habits become too restrictive.. or when you finally do break it off, it's too much to handle when you realise you're suddenly alone and there's nothing else to do.. and so you turn back to seeing him/her again..
and the vicious cycle begins again...
would moving on help? maybe. maybe not. i guess it varies from person to person.
today was a pretty interesting day, learning more about people, hanging out and having gossip sessions with the skaters is always very interesting. stories of days gone by, stories that are still unfolding, it's always interesting to hear gossip. i think my skating hasn't improved, and there's still so much more to learn.. it's terrible when you've reached a plateau, it's either you maintain, or you fall off.. and i think i'm falling off the bloody plateau! grr.
i wonder if older women are as good as people always say they are.. but then again i doubt i'll ever get a chance to find out.. not when i'm up to my neck with work and exams and school commitments...
till tomorrow...
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