the news about a batch of patcos senior to me came today. 3 out of 7 made it through their aerodrome course. the 3 that made it would return to changi tower after a week's break, and they would be attached to a particular watch to receive ojt(on job training). during dinner, a comment was made, on how these ojt-ers were akin to recruits, and shouldn't be attached to a corporal, the corporal being someone still on his probation period. so i gave it a little thought, and how it really did seem to have certain parallels, the caas ATC service and the military.
patcos would be recruits/privates, single rated controllers the specialists, double rated controllers the officers, managers and above the senior comissioned officers.
let's talk about something else that i had the opportunity to talk about with my dear couz coral. we were having prata at j kayu and we traded gossip about our other cousins, and we touched on the topic on who'd be next to get married. i have two older female cousins, who are eligible, however according to coral, unable to find the right person. it seems that the ones they are attracted to are taken, and the rest, simply unable to connect with them.
having been brought up in a upper middle class family, these two cousins of mine have been exposed to more of the world, educated overseas, enjoyed the priviledges that the average kid in the average family wouldn't have. i commented they were more opinionated, and it would seem difficult for the average singaporean guy to be able to accept something like that.
would a difference in education, in family background, earning power prove to be fatal to two people who have a connection and chemistry? i am inclined to believe that two people, no matter how compatible in terms of their chemistry and connection, may face an uphill task of having to meet certain expectations by their peers and family; when their prospective partners come from a different background. true, a union is between two people, but no man is an island, and the couple have to live with each other, and have to be answerable to the people that have brought them up. seeds of doubt serve only to undermine the connection and chemistry these two people have. there are people who have overcome this, but not everyone would be able to. the patriarchal family is still very much the mainstay in an asian society, and it would be difficult for some to accept the wife as the breadwinner, be it the man, or the wife's family.
do we, the children/young adults of today lack the drive our parents and parents' parents had? i would think so. my parents generation grew up in poverty, in big families that lived under the same roof, and since young, younger than us understood the value and importance of having more disposal income. as they grew up and became parents themselves, parental instincts took over, and they provided for, not wanting their children to have to grow up facing the same difficulties they have. it's not that we aren't driven, we didn't have to be driven, and like the theory of natural selection, we lost the ability gradually, and it's also become increasingly difficult for us to support families, without sacrificing a lot of the creature comforts many of us have become accustomed to since young. we're not having children because we aren't romantic, nor is it because we don't like and don't want children, it just isn't the, prudent thing to be doing, not when we want to continue enjoying and living a kind of life we have become accustomed to.
i do want to reply to a previous comment to my earlier posting about how lj is for personal details, and blogging isn't. maybe this might draw the ire of hardcore LJers, but to me, xanga, blogspot, lj, blogdrive, tabulas, any web log provider, are providing the same service, anyone who isn't linguistically challenged, has satirical flaire can easily produce a noteworthy web log. i very often don't have opinions on issues, or rather, i'm just too lazy to note it down and continue an appraisal of the situation that confronts me.
i guess i've rambled on too much. it's up to you, the reader, to take up the gauntlet and express your opinions. far too long has laziness prevented me from truly saying what i feel. my opinion is mine. you're welcome to state yours. and if you want to flame me, i hope the flaming has made your day better, and i'd have achieved something, by helping you feel better. it doesn't mean i accept your p.o.v. or wouldn't hold a grudge against you in anyway. *smirk*
patcos would be recruits/privates, single rated controllers the specialists, double rated controllers the officers, managers and above the senior comissioned officers.
let's talk about something else that i had the opportunity to talk about with my dear couz coral. we were having prata at j kayu and we traded gossip about our other cousins, and we touched on the topic on who'd be next to get married. i have two older female cousins, who are eligible, however according to coral, unable to find the right person. it seems that the ones they are attracted to are taken, and the rest, simply unable to connect with them.
having been brought up in a upper middle class family, these two cousins of mine have been exposed to more of the world, educated overseas, enjoyed the priviledges that the average kid in the average family wouldn't have. i commented they were more opinionated, and it would seem difficult for the average singaporean guy to be able to accept something like that.
would a difference in education, in family background, earning power prove to be fatal to two people who have a connection and chemistry? i am inclined to believe that two people, no matter how compatible in terms of their chemistry and connection, may face an uphill task of having to meet certain expectations by their peers and family; when their prospective partners come from a different background. true, a union is between two people, but no man is an island, and the couple have to live with each other, and have to be answerable to the people that have brought them up. seeds of doubt serve only to undermine the connection and chemistry these two people have. there are people who have overcome this, but not everyone would be able to. the patriarchal family is still very much the mainstay in an asian society, and it would be difficult for some to accept the wife as the breadwinner, be it the man, or the wife's family.
do we, the children/young adults of today lack the drive our parents and parents' parents had? i would think so. my parents generation grew up in poverty, in big families that lived under the same roof, and since young, younger than us understood the value and importance of having more disposal income. as they grew up and became parents themselves, parental instincts took over, and they provided for, not wanting their children to have to grow up facing the same difficulties they have. it's not that we aren't driven, we didn't have to be driven, and like the theory of natural selection, we lost the ability gradually, and it's also become increasingly difficult for us to support families, without sacrificing a lot of the creature comforts many of us have become accustomed to since young. we're not having children because we aren't romantic, nor is it because we don't like and don't want children, it just isn't the, prudent thing to be doing, not when we want to continue enjoying and living a kind of life we have become accustomed to.
i do want to reply to a previous comment to my earlier posting about how lj is for personal details, and blogging isn't. maybe this might draw the ire of hardcore LJers, but to me, xanga, blogspot, lj, blogdrive, tabulas, any web log provider, are providing the same service, anyone who isn't linguistically challenged, has satirical flaire can easily produce a noteworthy web log. i very often don't have opinions on issues, or rather, i'm just too lazy to note it down and continue an appraisal of the situation that confronts me.
i guess i've rambled on too much. it's up to you, the reader, to take up the gauntlet and express your opinions. far too long has laziness prevented me from truly saying what i feel. my opinion is mine. you're welcome to state yours. and if you want to flame me, i hope the flaming has made your day better, and i'd have achieved something, by helping you feel better. it doesn't mean i accept your p.o.v. or wouldn't hold a grudge against you in anyway. *smirk*
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